Thoughts, feelings and behaviors influence the well being of a persons growth. How we think, feel and act all interact together. Thoughts influence and determine ones feelings and behavior.
Perceptions and spontaneous thoughts influence emotions and several behavioral physiological reactions. Distortions in thinking exaggerate the emotional significance of common, everyday events.

SO WHAT CAN BE DONE?
One must identify thought processes. Differentiate these thought processes as ideas or fact. Consider different perceptions so as to change the way the emotional reaction is happening visa vis to when one has automatically thought of the situation.